The Staying Sane Guide to Keeping Hearing Aids In Your Baby and Toddler

The Staying Sane Guide to Keeping Hearing Aids In
 
How do you keep your child’s hearing aids in? I get this question all the time. But if you are anything like me, you know you’re really asking, how do I stay sane and keep my kids hearing aids in? Because we all know that keeping hearing aids in a baby and toddler can drive anybody out of their mind. So, if there is anything that you take away from this post, please let it be this – you are not alone. And if you are looking for honest insight from a fellow momma in the trenches, read on.  
 
Staying sane and keeping hearing aids in
I spy two hearing aids hiding in a that foosball table.

Before we move on, I’d like to take a moment to reveal the crazy places that my children have hidden or lost a hearing aid.  Both of my kids have hidden their hearing aids, torn them apart, or threw them somewhere. I have found hearing aids under the mattress, dug into the dirt of a plant, outside on a hosta leaf, the grass, a pant pocket, and the toy bin to name a few. What is my daughter’s favorite place to hide her hearing aid you ask? The garbage. The number of times I have shifted through nasty banana peels, and coffee grounds in search of a lost hearing aid makes me want to break out in hives just remembering.

Staying sane and keeping Hearing Aids In
Yes, there is a hearing aid in there.

Mom Guilt

On top of my children loving to hide or throw their hearing aids in random places, my daughter hated to wear them for pretty much the first 2 years of her life. I felt so much guilt over the fact that I could not keep Sayge’s hearing aids in all the time.  Pilot Hats were by far the best solution for Sayge Pilot Hat. But even that stopped working when she could reach in and grab the hearing aids out. Well-meaning therapists and audiologists will have tips and tricks, but I am here to offer the staying sane guide to keeping hearing aids in baby’s and toddlers. Because, let’s be honest, there are days when NOTHING will work.

My Staying Sane Guide to Keeping Hearing Aids In

This guide really just what ended up working for us as a family.  This simple process helped me feel like I was doing my job as a mom while staying sane and not losing my mind. Now I understanding that some kiddos don’t have this issues and keep their hearing aids in. However, my kiddos did not fall into that category. For me to survive I had to admit I was trying to live up to unrealistic expectation. I wanted my children’s hearing aids in from morning to night. I wanted them to love them and not pull on them or rip them apart. Is that too much to ask? Well, yes, while it was a great dream, it wasn’t realistic. If I was going to stay sane, I had to modify my expectations.  So here is what I did…

The Guide 

    • Step 1 – I made it a goal to attempt to put my children’s hearing aids in every single day. 
    • Step 2 – If she takes them out, I offer to put them back in (I never force). Sometimes she wanted them out; sometimes I think they just flipped off.  So there were times when she let me put them back in, while other times she refused. 
    • Step 3 – If she refuses, let that be okay for the moment and try again at another time. 
    • Step 4 – Remind yourself it will get better. Your child will wear them eventually. It might not be today, or even tomorrow. But there will be a day when it clicks. It may be sudden, or it might be subtle, but it will happen. 

Some days she had them in for most the day, some days it was 10 minutes. In the meantime, we learned some sign language to help bridge our communication gap. I used strategies like signing songs, distraction, or having someone else put them in besides myself. Sometimes that worked and sometimes that didn’t. There was never one full proof answer. I had to be flexible and flow with her. 

I know it is hard. It’s a kind of hard that only another Momma with children with hearing loss can truly grasp.  Give yourself grace. Give your children grace. What is right for other kids might not be right for your kid. You are their mom, and you know best. Do what works for your family. 

 

 

 

Hearing Loss Advice I Wish I Had Known


If I could, I would go back to tell myself a few
 pieces of hearing loss advice.  In the aftermath of finding out about our child’s hearing loss, we were a world wind of emotion.  Here we were loving our growing family and holding our sweet newborn, and yet on the other hand, I felt lost in grief, finding myself in an abyss of fear and shame. The fear felt heavy and the shame felt debilitating. Continue reading “Hearing Loss Advice I Wish I Had Known”

Hearing Aid Basics: What Does a Hearing Aid Do?

 
My family gets asked often: What is that in their ears, and what does a hearing aid do?

We love when people ask us this question. It gives us the opportunity to share with others about hearing aids, hearing loss, and how they work. Specifically, we get the chance to educate, model, and advocate. We get that people are curious – adults included. Hearing aids are incredible pieces of technology, who wouldn’t want to know more?
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Boy With Hearing Loss Has No Limits

Our story with hearing loss began when our second child was born. Ayden was diagnosed with mild to moderate, permanent, hearing loss in both ears.  I had no idea what our lives would look like. Additionally, I did not know a single person who wore hearing aids. Our thoughts began to spiral to shame and fear: would he be able to enjoy music, connect with his siblings, or play on at the park without getting picked on?

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First Time Baby Hears With Hearing Aids

 
This was our child’s response to the first time hearing with hearing aids.

We found out Sayge, our third child, most likely had hearing loss when she was 2 days old. She did not pass the newborn hearing screening test. While doctors assured us that it was most likely fluid in her ears that was causing the failed screening, we knew that it was extremely likely. That is because Sayge’s older brother, Ayden, has hearing loss. His too was detected at birth. Both children had no other signs or reasons that might have caused the hearing loss.

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Miscarriage: A Person’s a Person No Matter How Small

Easter LiliesHere is the story of our first pregnancy

Three years into our marriage, we found out we were pregnant.  We weren’t planning or even trying, so we were surprised to say the least.  But, as soon as I saw that plus symbol on that pregnancy test something inside me change.  While, still so afraid, I suddenly wanted this child more than anything I could imagine.  I had a fierce love for something so teeny tiny.   We called our family, we picked up books to read, and we started dreaming of names.  I called the doctor to get an appointment right away.  I was so excited to see the baby!

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Gardening: Healing and Growing From My First Garden

squash2 In my life, anxiety is a weed that seems to grow rapid.  It can feel suffocating at times. When I garden, I begin to slowly pull those weeds of anxiety out one by one. It’s a time where I am allowed to breathe, to heal, and to let go. I allow my garden to be a place where I am the one who set the rules. I become a child, an explorer, and I enjoy every single second I am surrounded those veggies.

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